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Hi,anyone who may read this., quick history,I lost my son a little over 2 yrs ago,like many I was fortunate to call him my friend as well as son,he was 25 and everything to live for,,he didn't know,or his girlfriend either,that he would be a a father to a child the image of him,I as his dad have found last 2 yrs hard,,but,now I've been suicidal,off work ,and struggling,I'm lucky I have good friends an family supporting me but at times feel so lonely it physically hurts!,ne4d4d to share and if possible to talk on here to anyone else going through similar thanks

Beginning of the discussion - 9/4/17

Depression after loss of my child, 2 yrs on
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Good advisor

Hi @Nicksmiths,

I am truly sorry for your loss! I wish you all the strength in the world to cope with it.

Hope you will get support from other members of the community here on Carenity.

Kind regards,

Margarita

Depression after loss of my child, 2 yrs on
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I lost my son who was 21 August 2014. It was suicide . He had everything to live for and was adored. I have had 3 years struggling - with a small child his sister was 3 when he passed. Paying the mortgage etc. On my own. Mental health often fogged. Severe anxiety without anti depressants a bit too fogged with them . however I go on and some how the pain does ease with time . Like a  wound that takes a long time to heal. My overall functioning will probably never be quite the same but I am successfully raising my daughter keeping her in a good home and hope to manage some self care in time . And it does physically hurt a lot for a long time. I was lucky to have 6 months of not working and support with childcare afterwards so I could rest with the pain.

Slowly functioning came back. Do not avoid the pain just rest with it and cry. Took at least 6 months of continuous grieving to get past the constant physical pain. It is the grieving and it is better to feel it and work through it to the other side. Takes time for sure. Your family need you and your loss would amplify the pain to others. Post traumatic shock is common for survivors of sudden death in family like suicide. give yourself time and grieve. through to the other side with time. Hope it helps

Depression after loss of my child, 2 yrs on
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Thank you for this ,it's brought me to tears ,for now can I just say thank you and when feel in a better place reply properly?x

Depression after loss of my child, 2 yrs on
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I read some authors that helped also Anita Moorjani in particular Eben Alexander also.

Eckhart Tolle is heavier but really good. It may not all be so final .....they gave me hope.

Depression after loss of my child, 2 yrs on
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Hello @judyoshea_ie‍ and @Nicksmiths‍,

I just read this thread and I want to say thank you for sharing. How are you both now? I hope you are taking care emoticon heart

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