Hello, I am new here, having followed through a friend's 'like' of this site on Facebook.
I have been in peri-menopause for around the last 6 years now. With changing hormones, the depression which I first experienced in my teens, then on and off through adulthood (generally hormonally linked) is now hitting with avengence. My marriage has hit a very low patch, in part because I pick up so strongly on my wife's own depression. When I am fine, I can rise above her depression, and indeed be of help. Homeopathy has helped in the past, and am looking for a good homeopath now.
Recognising now that I am bisexual, not lesbian, is adding to the confusion. Combined with experiencing the exact opposite of loss of libido (the source of some amusement to a friend the other day - good to share a laugh) and - sadly - within a celibate relationship. My only consolation is I will (sometime) come out the other side of this - and indeed not to let hormones lead me to do anything too rash...Look forward to sharing - perhaps at the receiving end now, and hopefully more positively later.
I think as women we are sometimes dealt a rough deal. I had awful problems as a teenager with very painful periods. I didn't meet my husband until I was 30 and when we tried for a family found out that I had a problem when we tried IVF. They had me on he maxium of the drugs and only got one egg, after further tests they gave me the sad news that I was having a premature menopause. At 36 that is not the news you want to hear. Took another 4 years for my periods to stop and that was a rough time. I ended up on HRT to try and cope with the hot flushes, night sweats and temper flares I'd get. Then 2 years later I bled again. Off for more tests, told to come back in 6 months if it happened again. A year and a half later, back again for more tests.
Then I went on holiday in 2013 and came back with a virus before I knew it I was in a bad way, had to give up work and was diagnosed with depression. My HRT tablets were stopped so we could work on control the depression. I still get hot flushes once in a while, but my moods more incontrol, well most of the time. I am now in the middle of a horrible divorce. I know the menopause and depression didn't help, but my ex was partly to blame, but he's not admitting it.
With all the work I did last year with my doctor and a psychologist and with my own research I feel so much better.
The best thing I've done is review my diet and adjust that with taking my interest in my exercise as well. I now wear an exercise monitor and use it to ensure I am getting at least my 10,000 steps a day.
I have also cut out all the salt I was using while cooking, have reduced the processed foods I was eating by 95% and I have cut my refined sugar intake by 80%. Still got work to do, but I noticed that reducing the sugar has had an effect on the hot flushes. It may be a coincide, but I don't get so many now. I know I definitely feel better when I am having good days with my depression and I do recover quicker from the lows when I do have a low point. :-D
I am working on changing my carbs to healthier ones and increasing my vegetable intake as well.
Thank you indeed for your reply. Yes, menopause is indeed a tough, complex time. I do keep an eye on diet, and fortunately have not experienced hot flushes. I am also on hrt now, and seeing a therapist (trauma related, c-PSTD I now know).
I hope you find healing out the other side of your divorce.
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Hello, I am new here, having followed through a friend's 'like' of this site on Facebook.
I have been in peri-menopause for around the last 6 years now. With changing hormones, the depression which I first experienced in my teens, then on and off through adulthood (generally hormonally linked) is now hitting with avengence. My marriage has hit a very low patch, in part because I pick up so strongly on my wife's own depression. When I am fine, I can rise above her depression, and indeed be of help. Homeopathy has helped in the past, and am looking for a good homeopath now.
Recognising now that I am bisexual, not lesbian, is adding to the confusion. Combined with experiencing the exact opposite of loss of libido (the source of some amusement to a friend the other day - good to share a laugh) and - sadly - within a celibate relationship. My only consolation is I will (sometime) come out the other side of this - and indeed not to let hormones lead me to do anything too rash...Look forward to sharing - perhaps at the receiving end now, and hopefully more positively later.