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How do you feel when people treat you like a victim?

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12/11/2025 at 18:00

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Hi everyone 🌼

How are you feeling today?

Sometimes when we open up about our illness, people don’t know how to respond, and their reactions can feel… off.

Maybe they go silent.

Maybe they speak to you with pity in their voice.

Maybe they start treating you like you’re fragile or broken.

Even if it comes from a place of care, it can still feel frustrating, disempowering, or just plain awkward. 🤷

💬 Let’s talk about it:

  1. Do you hate it when someone reacts with pity or treats you like a victim?
  2. Do you say something in the moment, or let it go?
  3. Have you found a way to explain your condition without inviting those kinds of reactions?

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You’re not alone in this, and your voice might help others feel seen too. 💛

Take care,
Somya from the Carenity team 🌼

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12/11/2025 at 22:10

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I’m never worried about talking about my operation as I feel lucky I had it and just relise I wouldn’t b here today only for that operation

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