Bittersweet Infertility

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26/11/2018 at 20:12

Hi all,

Just found out after 5 years of trying that I'm no longer entitled to IVF treatment.

Infertility is one of the most isolating health problems anyone could ever have. We've got our own little community which still needs further support and are often faced with statements like 'well, it's not life threatening is it?' or 'it could be worse.' I'm going to have to be honest here and say I blame myself for my own condition, even though I'm always told not to- years ago in my more fertile years, I was pretty much deadset against motherhood seeing everyone else had problems passed onto their kids which I could never wish on a lil'un. I'm also a tomboy who would rather wear oversized Darth Vader T-shirts rather than floral print if I ever did get lucky in the baby bump department.

Anyway after crying bucketloads to a counsellor, I've set up my own informal blog about infertility, plus a wee insight on IVF. This is written from a pretty brash point of view but infertility hits us in so many different ways and we all are diverse.

So here it is to copy and paste into your browsers if you want a bittersweet, but frankly honest read : https://infertilefreak.jimdofree.com/ . (Yes I know the title link isn't motivating, but that's how infertility has made me feel about myself.)

Here's wishing you all lots of strength and plenty of calming beverage of your choice (because lets face it, herbal teas aren't for everyone)

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27/11/2018 at 09:47

@ivieeff Thank you for sharing your story, I can't imagine how helpless you must feel not being able to conceieve. I have never wanted children but my friend tried for years before eventually adopting. They are very happy now but it was many years of sadness before they have reached this state.

Would you consider adopting? I know of another family that went to Canada to get a surragette mother. I can't even imagine the cost of that though.

Bittersweet Infertility https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/womens-health/bittersweet-infertility-2639 2018-11-27 09:47:27

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04/12/2018 at 21:32

Hi @Aaliyah,

Thanks for your reply.

Not at the stage yet to consider adopting but it's an option. Great to hear about your friend by the way that sounds heartwarming.

Yes people go through all lengths particularly to have children. Infertility is a cruel thing to have and very frustrating. The worse is that half the time it is discovered when there's little left to do something about it. Bah.

Bittersweet Infertility https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/womens-health/bittersweet-infertility-2639 2018-12-04 21:32:43

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05/12/2018 at 10:58

@ivieeff If you don't mind me asking, why is it that you can't have kids? I have poly cystic ovaries so I might not be even able to have children if I wanted them.

Bittersweet Infertility https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/womens-health/bittersweet-infertility-2639 2018-12-05 10:58:35

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07/12/2018 at 09:54

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I had a son and he passed away 14 hours after birth. I'm so sorry you're no longer entitled to ivf. It must be a grieving process. Like I am going through @ivieeff‍

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10/12/2018 at 11:57

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I have PCOS which is making it really difficult to get pregnant. I already have a daughter who is 16, I was diagnosed with PCOS about 3 or 4 years ago. Plus I'm 36 and my fiance is 34.

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