i need some help!

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Edited on 18/01/2016 at 12:23

first off hi to whoever is reading this & hope this is okay to say.

(NOT GOING TO USE REAL NAMES MY EX WILL BE CALLED TYLOR MY FRIENDS EX WILL BE CALLED BRAD)

like it say i need some help, at the start of last year my then boyfriend (now ex) cheated on me with one of my friends (a lot) but when he found out that i knew he got angry. He was already abusing me (mentally, emotionally and physically) for most of our 4 years being together -despite the fact we have a beautiful little girl together- he says why don't i sleep with my friends ex to "get over it" < his words; but that's one thing i could never do is sleep with Brad i was in a relationship and he creeped me out! Moving on i told Tylor I won't do it but he went and told Brad that I will.

So one night Ty was staying over with his daughter so our girls could have a sleepover, i told Tylor & Brad i was going to bed (i was so tired) so there i was dozzing off and i heard someone coming into my room, instantly i thought it was Ty checking on me but it wasn't it was Brad. He started kissing me I was too shocked what he was doing (he went all the way) i couldn't push him off due to him being much bigger than me and he was an abuser also. I knew that whatever answer i was going to give them two i was going to get hit off them.

I'm too scared to tell my family but i told my friend and she said it was rape, im not sure if it is or isn't since i didn't say to Brad personally yes or no, so is she right or am i right.

thanks if you read it all and sorry for wasting your time.x

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17/01/2016 at 23:34

please any help or advice will be great

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18/01/2016 at 12:23

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Hello @moonshee95

Thanks for sharing your story with everyone.

I am not an expert in the subject, but that definitely sounds like rape. You don't have to say No and try to push him to know that if he used force and you weren't ok with that happening then it is rape. In the definition of rape, aside from it not being consensual it also says "with use of physical force, coercion, deception, threat..."

I know it scares you to talk about it, but please don't. You need to get your story heard and get help.

I know there is more people out there than can comment also and have more experience to give you other advice.

But I strongly recommend that if you don't want to talk to your family, at least get in touch with an organisation and call them to their hotline 08 08 16 89 111

If you need more help, please don't hesitate.

Best,

Gilda

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30/04/2019 at 22:32

I would say your friend is right it is rape but please get checked out by your doctor

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Omg that's rape you need to report him to the police, so sorry that you have had to go through this awful situation, I know I've been down that road

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Hi moonshee I have been in a violent marriage and relationship I was abused to I understand where you are comming from you should seek help by phoning the police and explaining i was like you i had to have police protection and every where i went i had to inform them where i was going if you need help you should phone the womens violent help line explain to them what is happening and they will find you a womens refuge where there you will be safe you can usually find there number by asking citizens advice also you can get a court injunction where he will not be allowed to come anywhere you are if you have no luck then ring the samaritans or social services i do wish you well but if you do part company then never go back because if they do it once they will do it again i know because i was nearly killed so please take care love tiggs

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i need some help!

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