Wanting to be alone on Christmas day

Hi @Pinkypig,

Thank you for sharing something so deeply personal. I’m so sorry about your husband’s passing. Spending your first Christmas without him must feel incredibly heavy, and wanting to be alone this year makes a lot of sense. Sometimes, well-meaning invitations can feel overwhelming, like they’re trying to fill a space that can’t be filled. Grief has its own rhythm, and it’s okay to want quiet. It’s okay to say no. And it’s okay if what you need this Christmas is simply to be with your memories, in your own way.

Your message might have gone unseen when you first posted, but I want to take a moment to acknowledge it and you. To anyone else who might be feeling this too:

💬 Have you ever chosen solitude during festive times?

🕯️ What helped you honour your grief while also caring for yourself?

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You’re not alone in needing space, Pinkypig. Thank you for your honesty, it opens the door for others to feel less alone, too.

Take care,

Somya from the Carenity team 🌼