I struggle going to happy events

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Raindrops

02/02/2023 at 08:40

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I was not always this depressed. I used to be fun and I had a lot of friends. I still get invited to birthdays and weddings. I want to go, but the fear and sadness of my depression usually stops me. I think it's so much harder to go to happy events while I'm dying inside. Happy people, pictures, smiling. I hate that I can't feel the way everyone else does. I've stopped going., but not going makes me even more depressed. ... it's such a bad cycle. Does anyone else have this struggle? I'd love some advice.

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beryl50

03/02/2023 at 14:36

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Hi Raindrops

I get you. What's really hard is that most of the time it is family events and yet I still don't want to go. I don't want to have to a long conversation about old times, old times are a trigger for me that they don't know about but they think are great.

I'm a mess at 61, a shut in. No, none of that fun and laughter with family and friends for me.

Hope it all works out for you though. Best wishes and blessings.

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I struggle going to happy events https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-depression/i-struggle-to-go-to-happy-events-4957 2023-02-03 14:36:25

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04/02/2023 at 01:12

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I am usually stressed and depressed, when i have to attend any event including a "happy" event. My low self esteem and weak self image etc prevent me from being my true self and enjoying the happy event. Recently I attended a Choral selection of sacred themes, but I could not relax and attend to enjoying the music and song because I felt depressed and ill at ease, so I did not enjoy the event. I like quietness, where I can relax and be myself, but I would prefer to enjoy a social gathering, as we are led to believe that basically we are social beings who enjoy meeting people at various social venues. Recently I attended counselling and I was advised that I should just enjoy my own company as I am now 79 years and it is unlikely that I will change much now.

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05/02/2023 at 14:23

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@BrianM

Raindrops and Brian M Lets have a cyber handholding and vow that we will be who we want to be because that's who we are.

Now breath. Have a good week

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05/02/2023 at 13:50

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Hi @Raindrops

How are you today?

I think many people struggle with this. Let me tag a few others who may be able to share their experiences and how they cope.

@Marv61 @FloraBa @kiki2595 @gracielowe @McCaffs @Alllanm @Caroko @Aresole @TarynHelm @DawnieB @ruussbriss @juhachem @KleboldKlan @Pete1966 @Simran @Jedbear @Shauniex @MrsMelSerag78 @saalikkkk @nazza91 @Contessa @Fiona2960 @wardf4 @CLOFLO @Trinak @Jardin @Jake94 @Angie30 @Siobhanloui93 @Michael4 @Chan989

Do you go to "happy events"? Is there something you tell yourself or a procedure you follow to manage it? What advice can you give to @Raindrops ?

Take care,

Lizzi

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I struggle going to happy events https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-depression/i-struggle-to-go-to-happy-events-4957 2023-02-05 13:50:14

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