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What NOT to say to someone with depression 🗣️

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06/11/2025 at 15:00

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Hi everyone 🌼

How are you feeling today?

When you live with depression, you quickly learn that not all support feels supportive. Even when people mean well, some phrases can sting, or make you feel even more misunderstood or isolated.

💬 Let’s talk about it:

  • What are some things people have said to you that just weren’t helpful?
  • How do you respond when someone says the wrong thing, or doesn't know what to say at all?
  • Is there something you wish people would say instead?

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Sharing our experiences can help others learn what real support looks like, and maybe even open the door to better conversations in the future. 💛

Take care,
Somya from the Carenity team 🌼

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Edited on 12/11/2025 at 09:54

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1 ahh your just feeling sorry for yourself

2 if your single get. Go get yourself a girlfriend/boyfriend

3 There are people who are worse off than you who have nothing

4 Can you not just be happy

5 Did you not take your medication

6 Go to Mass pray to your faith

7 Everyone has [This content has been moderated by an administrator] in their lives

8 Go to the pub for company

9 Don't go to those support groups, it will depress you more

10 Find a man or woman to have sex with.


What NOT to say to someone with depression 🗣️ https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-depression/what-not-to-say-to-someone-with-depression-5866 2025-11-06 18:19:27

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I lost most of my friends due to the fact that they would use the generic phrases those that have never assisted used, "pull yourself together" "there's light at the end of the tunnel" "you need to sort yourself out" "your just attention seeking". No-one truly knows what you go through unless they walk in your shoes. For me it's hard to discribe how it affects me, as it can change so quick. Even the week meaning people can make things worse if they don't understand our think they know what's best. Sometimes family are the worst. Since my mum passed 5 years ago I've not really spoken to my sisters as they don't understand how it affected me, and they never listen when I try to explain. (there all older than me)

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What NOT to say to someone with depression 🗣️ https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-depression/what-not-to-say-to-someone-with-depression-5866 2025-11-07 01:46:04

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