I am struggling with depression and all my friends are bailing out.

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Edited on 21/10/2016 at 01:33

Hi, I'm currently going through some shit with ongoing depression issues. I've recently had some problems with so called friends bailing out on me and now my best friend has just told me that I'm over sensitive and that I need to get over it and how am I "still talking about it months later."

i feel like my heart is breaking. I can't trust anyone anymore. But this isn't me. I'm a strong, independent woman. I feel so pathetic, betrayed. Lonely.

Is it me? I don't know what to do.

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21/10/2016 at 01:33

I should probably mention that I've had a myriad of mental health issues for my whole life. This isn't new. She knew that when we first became friends about 10 years ago.

I am struggling with depression and all my friends are bailing out. https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/womens-health/i-am-struggling-with-depression-and-all-my-fri-1393 2016-10-21 01:33:27

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I found this happened to me when I had to leave work and all my so called “friends” just disappeared. My so called best friend seems to have disappeared as well. I saw her for 2 minutes at Christmas and since then I haven’t heard from her. I can’t be bothered with them all. Why should I run around trying to keep in touch with them. Better off without them.

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28/02/2019 at 23:57

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You are not alone I too am shocked at some of my friends, life long friends who I have been there for all their life through some pretty tough times and honestly being sick really shows who your friends is are . It's a real shock , but mu motto is I am sick But I am Strong and independent and these people will need me much quicker than I need them .

This cancer fight is hard enough for rus we did t need to give them space in our head we need to MIND ourselves

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25/03/2019 at 14:27

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My so called bestie called social services on me when i moved ti a rural area for health reasons. Making out i was an unfit mother! You are definitely NOT alone.

People need to be educated on depression and any mental illness, the phrase i used to get a awful lot 'i know how you feel' -really?

Bekieve in you, you can, you will, want to...

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15/04/2019 at 11:55

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Due to years of mental health issues I only have a few close friends left. I find it very hard to keep contact with them .

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20/04/2019 at 12:06

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I suffer from Depression and anxiety due to chronic health problems. I am very isolated as people just think you are being a miserable so and so. I have done a course of CBT wich has helped. At least I don't have to keep explaining to them what's wrong. One of the people who doesn't bother with me anymore was about to lose her job when I intervened and stopped them doing it.

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20/04/2019 at 18:27

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These are not your friends! Alas like many replies i too had a so called 'friend' who did this and worse, when i decided to move away to help my health and be with my now hubby. No one needs 'friends' like that!

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07/05/2019 at 13:03

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Hi ladies x Hope your well today x Reading all your stories have shocked me x these so called friends was not your friends at all x friends I think are like a marriage through sickness and health x is their any chance you can go to your doctors and refer you to a councillor x could you get in volunteering work we’re you could meet new friends x I had two women I work with one in her early 20s and one in her 40s x The younger had been mentally abused by are father and the other had suffered from depression for years x And you nurture people that are depressed and listen to them x and lots of hugs x The younger one lives with boyfriend and has a little girl now x And through a lot of love and listening to them helped them so much it wasn’t a over nite thing this took thing about 5/6 years x iam sending you massive hugs and a lot of love x start from scratch ladies regarding friends x wish I could help you all x x Be safe and try be positive x baby steps girls 🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼

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24/07/2019 at 10:15

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When I was a child I lived with depression as it was because of my dad being in a mental hospital, I used to self harm by pulling my hair out I had beautiful long black hair but I used to pull lots out because of all the bullying that I suffered and all the trauma seeing my dad being put into straight jackets ,watching the things that he had to go through in his mental hospital and this went on till I left school I was bullied every day by gangs of boys and girls they used to shout out cruel things about my dad ,call me names punch,me kick me ,through stones at me ,push me in stinging nettles ,throw ink at me ,pull my hair and loads of other things and this was from me being 6 till I left school ,it was hell ,it made me like a shivering jelly ,and when I left school it caused me to have post traumatic trauma depression I was put on loads of meds but it never helped I had councilling because of it all that's why I still have PTSD, low moods depression and now anxiety because of everything that has gone on in my life

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26/07/2019 at 14:57

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@Tigger.co.uk... I'm so sorry to hear about your childhood but I can relate so much it... I won't go through it all but the main thing my mum was a drug addict (thanks to her doctor) and an alcohol .. She was frequently taken into the local mental hospital for electric shock treatment....placed in straight jackets, put in what can only be described as a padded cell... I will have one memory with me for life I must have been 15/16 I could see through the cell door small window mum couldn't pull her head up after one particular treatment and she was on her period no sanitary towel or even nickers and she got blood on the floor, the nurse was shouting at her to clean it up, she couldn't bring her head forward to see the floor yet the nurse kept shouting at her.

This was in the 1960s thank you goodness things have changed dramatically... So I really really can relate to how you feel xx 💖

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