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Edited on 24/05/2016 at 20:41

I'm feeling very down right now and I don't know what else to do other than talk about it on here and get my feelings out. 

Basically I'm struggling with the feelings of hurt, loss and being alone even though i'm not alone if that makes sense. 

On Saturday my mum told me that I'm "touched" and that I need to take a higher dose of anti depressants which broke my heart to say the least. It took a lot for me to tell her that I was diagnosed with depression four years ago and she just thinks it's an excuse and that it's "in fashion" I feel as if I'm unable to cope and I get nervous when I need to see my family because I know all the time that she's judging me. 

Family has always meant a lot to me, I don't know why to be honest as we always argue and fall out so I don't know what to do. 

My depression is getting in the way of other things like looking for a job, my last job ended and I'm really struggling to sell myself and apply for work. I know that the Job Centre won't understand this though and I know I'm making life harder for myself :(

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25/04/2016 at 20:01

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I'm sorry to hear that you're in this awful situation. Your mum doesn't understand how you're feeling and I can relate to how that would hurt you. Depression is hard enough, but many people go through it completely alone because its true, the people that have never experienced it just wouldn't get it.

I'm new to this site but I would say its safe to open up here and get some more 'off your chest'. My biggest thing for me is that things go round and round in my head because there's nowhere to release it. I hope you can talk now as I think it could help.

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The struggle & feeling alone https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/the-struggle-feeling-alone-962 2016-04-25 20:01:09

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25/04/2016 at 21:59

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You can be in a room full of people but still feel alone, it appears to be part and parcel of depression. Talking is a great release . Is your  mum of the opinion that "You just need to snap out of it' I always say that unless you have experienced it personally, you can never truly understand how awful depression is. She may have meant it as a joke but perhaps because you are feeling so low you are extra sensitive ??

I do agree that you need to talk as it will be a release for you.  Feel free to message me if you want to get things off your chest. Please don't bottle your feelings up. 

Take care. xx

 

 


The struggle & feeling alone https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/the-struggle-feeling-alone-962 2016-04-25 21:59:33

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26/04/2016 at 10:30

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Good morning Victoria. How are you feeling today?

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The struggle & feeling alone https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/the-struggle-feeling-alone-962 2016-04-26 10:30:22
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26/04/2016 at 13:43

Hi guys nice to meet you all x


The struggle & feeling alone https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/the-struggle-feeling-alone-962 2016-04-26 13:43:50
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28/04/2016 at 14:01

Hi Everyone

Thank you for your lovely comments.

The problem with my mum is that she has a very closed mind and has said to me that depression wasn't around when she was my age and thinks its all an excuse. She wasn't joking when she said what she said. 

I have spoken to my boyfriend since and feel a lot better now. If she can't accept me for who I am then that is her problem and I am not ashamed of who I am x


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Never be ashamed of being ill and struggling. It takes a lot to admit out loud that you are struggling mentally. The older generation do struggle with mental illness. My now ex was diagnosed as being "delusional + psychotic". Due to his upbringing he refused to accept help. On telling his parents about his illness/behaviour his mum told me  that "She didn't know where he had got that from"!! 

Like you can catch it or go and buy it.!! They have been in denial ever since and brushed it under the carpet. For them they were ashamed to tell anyone that their son was mentally ill.

You think of you and do all that you can for you. Hopefully , your mum will realize that so many things now have a "name' eg dsylexia Bi polar etc.  I wish you well.


The struggle & feeling alone https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/the-struggle-feeling-alone-962 2016-04-28 19:30:34
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24/05/2016 at 20:41

Hi everyone just wanted to say for me today has almost been breaking point where i did something stupid but i calmed down and i was ok again, my mental health team saw me and going to start new drug over weekend, but i dont even know anymore whats going to help or not.


The struggle & feeling alone https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/the-struggle-feeling-alone-962 2016-05-24 20:41:54

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