Boyfriend suffers from severe depression and pushing me away

Hey all,

Sorry you have been having a rotten time Tibby, I have been on both side of the equation, more times than I can remember, it sounds like his mind is struggling to process his Truma.

We often stay in shock for longer than we realise, my concern would also be about your health, it is hard to go through what you are going through.

Your Boyfriend will only process at the rate he can cope with, but the journey is his to be had, no matter how supportive our partners are and I am sure many will agree with me here, sometimes nothing will help, its like a 100,000 piece puzzle that you have no picture to, you have to take the past that you had that has been destroyed by whatever truma you have experienced and then take the future you had imagines that has also been destroyed and try and piece them all together, to function in the present.

You need to look after yourself, if you too become unwell, it will not help either of you or your relationship.

It isn't easy to look after yourself when you are more concerned about someone else, until you realise you cant look out for them, if you are in no fit state, physically mentally and emotionally.

everyone here is right in their own way, but there are few universals on this journey, many partners feel it is there job and there right to look after there other half when they are on this journey, but many depressed people while are struggling to look after themselves, they are often depressed about that very thing. so trying to help all the time can be quiet overwhelming for them, they feel like they are not improving, they don't always see that you are just trying to ease there pain, they often see it, that you think they cant deal with it on their own, and this can in fact disempower them, I know your boyfriend is walking a dark path, with his own demons fast on his heels, and you want nothing more but to shine your light on them, but if he is not ready to face them, it can set him back.

You are an amazing and supportive partner and he is lucky to have you, believe me there will be a turning point, but only he can turn that wheel. your job needs to be keeping yourself on track, checking in on him from time to time, letting him know you are always there day or night even if it is just as a friend.

Please look after yourself too.

Love light and peace x

Hi Lee,

Yeah me as well, been single for 8ish years now. Not sure if anyone could put with me !! But you know what, I quite like it being just me. How are you right now ? Seems like forever since we were in contact on here.

Debs

Xx

I am the same as you Debs, but don't mean we have to be down like you single or not its all about me..;) 

TY