Yeah I talk to my family and friends. I am not worried about what they think. The ones that think poorly of me should not be my friends anyway! I have a really good network, so I have lots of support. When I was first diagnosed I was surprised. Thought I was "just" stressed. So before I started telling everyone I wanted to know more about my situation, so I could explain it well to anyone interested.
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25/12/2014 at 09:41
I cannot talk to my family as to feel that I have let them down and do not want them to be worried about me.
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27/12/2014 at 18:34
It took me a long time to be able to talk to my family but I'm glad I have now.
Some understand better then others. For my hubby he doesn't really understand depression & I had to give him a lot of info to help him, he was part of the "Just be happy" mentality.
It has helped to develop a code with him, when I say "I need a hug" he knows I am really struggling, when I say "I can't move" he knows I am actually trapped in my body & need him to pull me off the sofa.
Its not always easy but it they would rather know what is going on then worry about you & think it is something they have done.
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03/01/2015 at 01:18
oh, Nicky112358, you are so lucky with your husband, mine saying to me everyday that '"hi is need to coop with me and how much his is suffer from my depression" I'm really feeling guilty every day=more depressed, I even agree on divoice now.
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I've told most of my family but to varying degrees. My husband tries his best and is very caring. My main support has come from friends who when I said this is what is happening to me have told me that they have had issues as well. As I am a teacher there are a lot of my colleagues going through similar things. I know who I can turn to when I need especially if I need somewhere to calm down and fend off a full blown panic attack.
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04/01/2015 at 05:32
I wish I had someone to talk to. The one friend I thought I could speak to about my depression was not very sympathetic and in a round about way told me to pull myself together.
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Marina- I am sorry that your husband is not very supportive, sometimes a break can be a good thing to give you space to focus on getting yourself better without worrying about how it affects him. I hope you find a way through.
Delenn- I was amazed when I started telling friends how many of them had also got their own experiences with depression & anxiety & I'd never known. We are not a very open society but it is so common & if everyone was more open they could support each other better.
Scifiyonne- I'm sorry that friend wasn't very supportive, I've found if someone doesn't have experience of what you are going through they really struggle to understand it. Keep trying to talk to people & of course you have people here who understand.
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11/01/2015 at 15:56
I have talked to my friends about my depression before and they were surprised and concerned. But I keep falling into periods of depression and I think they have just got bored with me and no longer care. I feel such a failure and just want it all to go away and to go back to when I had a husband, a house, good friends and a life. Not what I have now.
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26/02/2015 at 01:59
I was fortunate. My family was was very supportive. Mum Dad aunts, uncles, cousins. I suppose it was due to so many others of both sides of the family suffering with Depression (thats interesting) and have only just discovered long lost relatives struggling with it. I have always been open about it. I found that talking about it was a form of tharapy and externally processed it. I find that taking about it helps others admit or open up about it. It helps others talk about it if they have struggled to find others so supportive. Proper Friends wont mind you talking about it, as long as you don't constantly talk about it. Depression is an epidemic in this country the US and lots of other countries. People don't have Hope. Don't have something to look forward to, A purpose. Once you learn who you are, why you are here and where you are going ....... LIFE takes on a new meaning.
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02/03/2015 at 12:32
I thought my husband wanted to support me he tells thekids not to upset me but didn't realise he is part of the problem. Whilst drunk last night he said I was putting it all on for attention today I could just end it all
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Hello everyone,
Have you talked to your family and friends about your diagnosis? Or do you fear that they won't understand?
Please feel free to share your thoughts and experiences here.
All the best,
Marina