How to deal with non understanding family and friends
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So my family and some of my friends are not getting how ill i am, any ideas what to do about it? :)
Beginning of the discussion - 15/05/2016
How to deal with non understanding family and friends https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/depression/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/how-to-deal-with-non-understanding-family-and-999Answer for me now on the council housing waiting list , i actually sleep in my living room soo yeah, and i am so tired of everyone telling me off.
HI Haze
My family are very unsportive,& very selfish So I can understand your problem a bit! My sisters always put me down & make me feel like rubbish! They have no idea of what I feel & don"t even try to understand! my mum is the only person in my family that I trust & gets me! my bother has mental health issues himself & gets upset if I talk about my deppersion, Which I understand, my sisters are horrid to him as well! I have had CBT which I found very good & has helped me alot! It"s not easy when you have to live in the situation! Have you talked to your GP, they might be able to get you some help. Good luck with it all!
know the feeling. my family don't bother just wrote me off. so, it can be hard!!
My family don't have a clue about what it is like to live with mental health problems.I barely talk to to them
Hi everyone, well GP so far not been great support, but i now got other health issues due to stress, well and the depression. See what happens :)
Have you thought about seeing another gp? find sometimes that helps as some off our Dr's don't have a clue about mental health.
Instead of running to a GP or a Doctor or anything, have you thought about sitting one person out of your family down may it be a parent, sibling, uncle, aunt anyone. Just tell them exactly what is wrong with you, how it makes you feel, what you have done to try and help yourself and what they do/say that upsets you.
For example my discussion with my mother when exactly like this:-
'Mom, I have something which I need to discuss with you and it is really serious, I just need you to listen to me and if you have any questions I will answer them at the end. Okay, so basically I have depression, I know what has caused it, I know why I am like this, but that is not for you to worry about that the moment, I have go to counselling, got self help books and gone to my Doctors, but none of them really helped, so now I have come to you. Mom when you treat me bad or say something like I am doing this on purpose, it really affects me and it is not helping my depression at all.'
Then we discussed it and she understood and has helped me since.
Honestly tried that talked to my grandma and my mum and nope they dont get it, i was honest and nope still nothing . Ta for the advice though
Not tried another GP i have found at my practice one great doc who now actually i have made my main doc so i see what happens, I am tempted to look for a new practice, issue is there often waiting lists and to be honest not sure how to know if a docs is a good one or not :/
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