my sister is very claustrophobic i locked her in her room, now its my turn to be locked up is this fair ?

Hi @tanya1234,

I want to be honest that what you described is very concerning. Locking someone in a room when you know they are claustrophobic, and then leaving them there for hours, could have been extremely distressing and frightening for your sister. This goes far beyond an ordinary argument between siblings.

It sounds like a lot of damage was done in that moment, and not just practically, but emotionally too. Even when people are angry, fear and panic should never be used against someone. That is why this situation may feel much heavier than simply asking whether a punishment is fair.

So rather than focusing only on the punishment itself, I’d like to open this up in a more constructive way:

• Has anyone here ever had a family conflict go so far that trust was seriously damaged afterward?
• When someone has a strong phobia or anxiety, how do you make sure arguments do not cross into something harmful?
• What does accountability look like when you know you have deeply upset or frightened someone?

I’d ask everyone responding to keep the conversation respectful and focused on reflection, safety, and repairing harm.

Take care,

Somya from the Carenity team 🌼