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How do you cope with the loss of a loved one?
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disneychannelmogul
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disneychannelmogul
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I lost my beautiful older sister in October in the year 2000 to breast cancer and I lost my mother on 13th June on 13th June 2002 and I lost my best friend Roger Wilkins to a massive heart attack and a stroke aged 82 on 13th April 2020 and I lost my father from a gallbladder infection and kidney failure on 11th June 2021 and my Christian friend Matthew in the last two months from arrhythmia. Matthew was 76 when he died.
I'm going through a terrible serial bereavements situation and suffer from a major depressive disorder and generalised anxiety disorder set of illness on top of my autism spectrum condition.
Dolphin74
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Dolphin74
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I lost my dad in July we never got to berry him till 24 august my depression hit rock bottom
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chrissie2018
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chrissie2018
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@Dolphin74 I can imagine how bad your depression is. I never got to say goodbye to my mam when she passed due to family reasons and I feel guilty every day. You'll never forget your Dad and will have your good memories just remember that and it will help you get through the day π
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shelly68
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My youngest daughter 30, passed away April 21. It is so hard as I feel she should still be here. There are questions i will never get answered as I feel let down by the system. It has affected my mental health so much. I feel so lost & alone in this journey. She has a son who I only see a few times a year, I feel I'm grieving his loss as before she died, he was with me everyday since birth.
I also lost my mum in Nov 10, I still haven't accepted that she has gone. She had MD but it was still hard as she was only 59.
chrissie2018
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chrissie2018
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I totally understand how you must be feeling losing a daughter then a mother. I lost my mum to cancer at the age of 46 and after losing her I felt so guilty not saying goodbye to her as we had a disagreement that was never resolved also I had a miscarriage two years later. Life is hard to deal with sometimes but as long as you have support from family and friends you'll get by.
Leekat
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steven elvin
steven elvin
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i lost my wife to cancer on the 13/11/23 and i feel so alone even though i have a big family this was her 3 rd time she had cancer
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mr chipps
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mr chipps
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I have lost several family members to smoking related cancer and c.o.p.d in the last 35 years and at first it really hurt me and I didn't know what to do or who to turn to.
As the latest death was my older sister whom I wasn't close to it didn't hurt as much and I now have a,stone flower vase in my back garden I put fresh flowers in once a month, as I do for my other family members, i had to arranged her funeral which wasa hard thing for me as i wanted to make it special, i wrote a special poem and arranged for 3 pieces of music to be played at her funeral and laid her to rest in her line dancing costume, as she was a champion line dancer. We also played a line dancing song, for the reflection part of the funeral.
I only visit my brothers my brothers grave once a year, as his immediate family look after it, I go on his birthday which I'm new years eve.
It's over 30 years since my wife went to heaven. In her memory I have bought a defibrillator from yorkshire ambulace charity. which is placed on the wall of the local care home. I found out last week that it has been used to help save a life.by being used.
This makes me happy and I know that my angel in heaven wife will approve. And my perfect pixies life will live on as long as the defibrillator is helping save other people's lives. To me it was a donation from deep in my loving heart. To my loved ones in heaven I deeply love and miss everyone of you, even my grandaughter, who was born after 20 weeks and died age 50 minutes. I never saw her but love the knowledge that that Becky was my grandchild.
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Tigger.co.uk
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Tigger.co.uk
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Torrow will be 29 yrs since I lost my mum and it still raw today I miss her terribly she was a massive part of my life as my dad was in a mental hospital and I only had mum but now she has gone I feel lost today I had talking therapies with a Dr Hill he was so kind and understanding, so tomorrow I am going for a meal with my husband to celebrate my mums life being 70 this Yr and losing my mum with lung cancer and her being 76 scares me so I suffer with Ptsd low moods depression and anxiety because of all my trauma I have gone through in my life and having someone to talk to is helpful as I can't talk to my family as I don't want them to be upset but it something I had to do as it was something I needed to do so now I am talking about everything I have gone through and maybe in time it will help I really hope so as my life as been hell what with being a battered wife with my first husband, and many other traumatic incidents but when I was diagnosed with breast cancer it was the icing on the cake so now everything has come to a head and Covid didn't help either Tigger
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LizziB
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LizziB
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Hello everyone,
Many of us struggle when someone close to us passes away. Everyone handles grief differently and goes through stages at different rates.
Tell us about when you lost a loved one. What did you go through? What helped? What didn't? What do you want to tell us today?
Let this be an open discussion where you can talk about your loved one, share some nice stories, talk about your struggles, share advice to one another.
Take care,
Lizzi from the Carenity team