I have just returned to work on a phased return, to allow me to escape the home environment. Unfortunately I have found out that my marriage has fallen apart, with my wife having an affair. This was the final stick in the spokes of the wheel for me, as I was already finding coping with her medical condition of ME exhausting and difficult. I only ever saw the bad days and felt like the whipping boy.
Now I find it difficult to communicate to her and with others at work due to my emotions taking over. I am constantly fighting the tears. I am not a very social person with few good friends so am not looking forward to the festive break.
I need to be able to identify a way to stay strong and not allow the anger inside to come out in a vindictive manner when we attempt to talk, it is hard and making me feel worse about myself as I no longer understand the feelings I have, love and hate appear to be so similar at the moment. Gutted with no future is how I feel at the moment.
I hope you are starting to feel better about yourself and that both your domestic and work problems are easing. I was fortunate enough not to be suffering from depression when I found out about my now ex-husband and decided it was time to leave as I concluded if it happened once it would probably happen again. I knew that I could not go through all the pain more than once.
I am not saying it's the same for you but you do need to decide what would be best for you, and what is going to cause you less damage in the long run.
I really hope your life is heading in a direction that is good and rewarding for you. X
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How do I cope with the emotional distress caused by a marriage breakdown https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/how-do-i-cope-with-the-emotional-distress-caus-1642017-02-15 17:23:13
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I have just returned to work on a phased return, to allow me to escape the home environment. Unfortunately I have found out that my marriage has fallen apart, with my wife having an affair. This was the final stick in the spokes of the wheel for me, as I was already finding coping with her medical condition of ME exhausting and difficult. I only ever saw the bad days and felt like the whipping boy.
Now I find it difficult to communicate to her and with others at work due to my emotions taking over. I am constantly fighting the tears. I am not a very social person with few good friends so am not looking forward to the festive break.
I need to be able to identify a way to stay strong and not allow the anger inside to come out in a vindictive manner when we attempt to talk, it is hard and making me feel worse about myself as I no longer understand the feelings I have, love and hate appear to be so similar at the moment. Gutted with no future is how I feel at the moment.