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Posted on 13/06/2016 18:14
Hi, I'm new to this, not sure I'm doing this right, but I'm suffering with the most awful feelings of dread and depression.
Beginning of the discussion - 13/06/2016Depression and fear and anxiety!! https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/depression/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/depression-and-fear-and-anxiety-1120
Posted on 13/06/2016 18:15
Sometimes I wonder if life is worth it!!
Posted on 13/06/2016 20:02
Hi Miracle, I do hope that since your last post that you are feeling a little brighter?
You probably may not feel that life is worth living as perhaps you can never imagine having a good/happy life ahead of you. Take it from me, that time will come. Looking back to my darkest days, I too felt that nothing would ever improve , that I would never, ever be happy again.It has been a long, hard dark path but I can honestly say that I am in such a positive place in my life. Yes, I do have days when I feel low but who doesn't??
I suffered from anxiety depression ;but once you accept that you need help and grab that help then life will become bearable. I accepted help from my GP [medication] but for me talking was my life saver; once that I was feeling open to talking. I also worked on helping myself; doing things that I enjoyed doing. Concentrating on my breathing helped me to overcome my feelings of anxiety; something that I still use in times when I can feel anxiety starting to creep in.
Don't be too critical of yourself, don't try to over analyze things.
It would be nice to hear how you are today.?
Big hugs. x
Posted on 20/06/2016 17:17
I'm severely f
Posted on 20/06/2016 18:00
Hi Miracle. Ive felt this way for a long time before i recognised that these are syptoms of a common ailment. It helped immensely to talk with fellow sufferers as my partner then refused to believe i was suffering and was tired of being told "snap out of it" and "theres people worse off than you". Dont hesitate to talk, see your GP and enquire about counselling. Medication was counterproductive for me but has helped friends in a similar situation. Like life, this is all part of a long journey. Dont be afraid, there are lots of others like you. Whatever path you choose, it will never be to late to turn around and choose another if its not working out for you. best of luck, my friend.
Posted on 20/06/2016 18:31
Having been diagnosed with asthma a year before my wife passed away i get realy frightend when i have an attack.My attacks are getting more frequent and seem to be getting worse .What bothers me is l lost my wife due to asthma so in the back of my mind it frightens me.I was also diagnosed with a brain tumour in 2002 and my health is also decreasing with this condition theres not a day goes by where i think i cant take anymore maybee i would be better out of it
Posted on 20/06/2016 19:20
dear Richy, so sorry to hear about your asthma and the passing of your wife. Seems you maybe suffering panic attacks which would l ead on to asthma. Has your doctor taught you how to breath from the stomach. My son was taught this , hes asthmatic, when he got an attack climbing mount snowden. After being told how to breath from the stomach, he was fine again, and finished the climb. That is just a thought in case it helps. Is the medication working properly for you condition? i feel you need to see someone who will listen and ensure your on the correct dosages etc. Hang in there, life never tays the same, it will change. Best wishes
Posted on 20/06/2016 20:29
So sorry to hear you feel this way. I have had depression in the past and it does reoccur from time to time, and the guilt I felt made it more difficult to deal with. We do give ourselves a hard time about it. Get as much help as you can from the doctor, I was lucky as mine was kindness itself. It is thought that by 2020 1 in 5 will suffer depression and anxiety. We live in strange times, life is led at a fast pace and we can't all keep up. There is light at the end of the tunnel, but give it time. Healing thoughts
Posted on 20/06/2016 21:36
Hi Richy, I am sorry to read about what has happened in your life; Life is so harsh at times. I agree with Cleopatra; it sounds like you are suffering with panic attacks which is similar to an asthmatic attack. Breathing correctly will not only calm you down but if as soon as you feel those feelings start to appear ,concentrating on your breathing will also give you something to focus on. When in times of anxiety etc I still concentrate on my breathing and eventually you will feel calmer. Panic attacks can be quite frightening. It is completely understandable that you worry due to you sadly losing your wife due to asthma. Always take your inhalers as prescribed.If it helps try sitting in a steam filled room to ease any difficulty in breathing. The main thing is to stay calm. My new partner is suffering from a terminal illness along with severe depression due to his illness/divorce and the fact that he hasn't seen his children. He suffers from really low times regarding his illness and thinks "Why bother". It must be so hard but instead of noticing the weeds look at the flowers. Life can be so wonderful.
Sending you big hugs wrapped with love and positive thoughts. x
Posted on 21/06/2016 08:55
depression is cruel, and sneaks in whilst your not looking, meds do help you get through the worst of it, as does being able to talk about it. Richy please go see a doctor, your coping with an awful lot and need to find a way through. I was given a very good piece of advice, make a list daily of 5 things you want/need to do. Make sure only one of those things is a long or difficult task. When each one is complete cross it off. Also to take a break between those jobs, read a chapter of a book or go for a short walk. It helps break up your day into smaller lots. Give it a try, I can vouch for the fact it does help. Then after a wee while can I suggest you have a look around at local social groups, a lot meet at church halls, but arn`t connected to the church. I now belong to our local U3A group. There are monthly group meetings but also every week smaller groups of people with different interests meet up. There are lots of social groups about these days, also more and more community centres some who offer meals. Look around am sure you`ll find one that will suit you. Don`t give up,