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"Pull yourself together!": Have you been told this? How to react?

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Edited on 27/01/2015 at 17:11

How do you deal with people who tell you to "pull yourself together"? I always get hurt and frustrated. I can't seem to explain well enough to people around me, that depression is a disease - I can't just snap out of it.. I just become more sad when people push me like that. But I don't know what to say to them. I always just shut up. I need to learn to stand up for myself, but it is hard when I am already struggling. 

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Edited on 27/01/2015 at 17:12

Hello webberty1983.

I contacted "unregistered user" to give them your message and the feedback was very positive. He/she will return to Carenity when he/she is feeling better.

Thank you for helping him/her - it is much appreciated by both Carenity and by the member.

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"Pull yourself together!": Have you been told this? How to react? https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/pull-yourself-together-142 2015-01-27 17:11:42

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This discussion is quite old, but it's still interesting and can be of use to someone.

Don't hesitate to share your own tips on how to "pull yourself together" and cope with difficulties related to your health issue.

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"Pull yourself together!": Have you been told this? How to react? https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/pull-yourself-together-142 2018-07-18 15:20:06

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Hi everyone,

How are you doing? I was scrolling through some of our *very old* discussions today and this one really stuck out to me.

Have you ever been told to "pull yourself together" or something similar talking about your mental health? How do you react to people who don't understand or are intolerant of your mental illness?

@Simran @SebastianG @momri123 @Jedbear @Shauniex @Jullie085 @Aallen @nazza91 @Chan989 @Jeanha @mervynandanne @Josehc @Ajwilso @Seahorses @Becky55 @IceQueenie @Bethsherry @Elleunicornlover @mjdeliz

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"Pull yourself together!": Have you been told this? How to react? https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/pull-yourself-together-142 2022-02-15 17:45:22

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Yes I have and it feels upsetting


"Pull yourself together!": Have you been told this? How to react? https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/pull-yourself-together-142 2022-02-17 18:26:11

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@Dolphin74, I'm sorry to hear that. How do you react when it happens? Are you able to make others understand?

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I just feel if it was easy to pull your self together then we would makes me feel numb I've been on anti depressants for 20 years on and off and had some council on and off and I get used to someone and open up then it stops then I have to start all over again from beginning instead of carrying on


"Pull yourself together!": Have you been told this? How to react? https://www.carenity.co.uk/forum/other-discussions/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/pull-yourself-together-142 2022-02-23 18:50:24
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